The Transgender Bathroom Nontroversy


It’s been in the news, discussed everywhere. It’s sparked the creation of laws and protests from angry Liberals and Conservatives alike. It’s funny, all that over where to take a shit or piss. Which is generally not considered a topic of public conversation. Yet here I am writing about it.I don’t really care where people do their business. It’s of no consequence to me. As a matter of fact, I would take it a degree further and tear down the wall in between. There is no good reason to have separate bathrooms. The case against laws in favor of transgendered people using their bathroom of choice, or for gender neutral bathrooms generally stems from the fear of cisgender (I know, I hate that term too, but it’s useful in context) men posing as women to prey on women and girls. (You can thank crazies that claim we live in a rape culture – no we don’t.)

This is ridiculous for many reasons. Not only is the idea of a “Penis Police” comical, but most public restrooms are small enough, with thin boards for stall walls where sounds and smells easily escape. Imagine a scene where a stranger walks into the stall with you, that should be a red flag regardless of gender. A quick google search for “sexual assault in bathrooms statistics” will also yield quite a pages of local and state authorities stating that there’s no case on record of men posing as women to sexually assault women in bathrooms (The only thing I found that’s close was a kid in Toronto posing as a trans-woman in a womens’ shelter, which is one story that happened in a shelter and not in a bathroom. Even if it was in a bathroom, that’s still one story compared to several PDs and organizations not having any issues on record.)

Does anyone remember Stranger Danger? Yeah that turned out to be pretty much false. In fact it’s pretty much unanimous today that Strangers raping or abducting people is a very small percentage of all rapes and abductions.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe that the government should dictate unisex or segregated bathrooms. I do think that unisex bathrooms should be more of a thing though. Here are some reasons why unisex bathrooms are a good idea in no particular order.

  1. No bathroom related anxiety for trans people.
  2. No more bitching about potty parity.
  3. Safety in numbers. If some depraved asshole was to try anything, they are more likely to get caught. By having a larger unisex bathroom there will be more people. Even more chance of someone walking in on any sexual assault.
  4. Caretakers/parents of the opposite gender of their charge can be in the same restroom without anxiety.

Ps: There are plenty of women that use the mens’ room as there isn’t really an enforceable law in the US. Any port in a storm! You don’t hear many reasons why biological women or trans-men shouldn’t enter mens’ rooms. It’s counter intuitive that we wouldn’t worry about biological women that enter mens’ rooms but scold the idea of a biological male entering the womens’ room. I guess the only thing that men have to fear is this:
hanakoHanako – Japanese urban legend.

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